“The Met Gala! For Ideas!”

Bari Weiss’s Salon for the Disenfranchised Is Just the Beginning for the Free Press

The ambitions of the Free Press, her indie media outfit, were on full display at a debate about the sexual revolution.
Bari Weiss with Sarah Haider Grimes Anna Khachiyan and Louise Perry
Left-right: former NYT columnist Bari Weiss with Sarah Haider, Grimes, Anna Khachiyan, and Louise Perry backstage at The Theater at the Ace Hotel on Wednesday, Sept. 13, 2023, in Los Angeles, CA.By Francine Orr/Los Angeles Times/Getty Images.

The line outside the old ’20s gothic theater slinked around the corner off Broadway. Not that off Broadway. Broadway in Downtown Los Angeles, at the newly redone Ace Hotel, which, on this night in mid-September, sold out all 1,600 seats. No big musician was performing inside. No television show or movie was premiering (there aren’t any in LA, or anywhere, right now).

The crowds were filing in to watch four women debate whether the sexual revolution has failed. The event, styled as an old-fashioned boxing match—“CLASH OF THE FEMALE TITANS,” the program read. “FIGHT 7pm”—was put on and moderated by Bari Weiss and her new media company, the Free Press, and is the first in a series of such events. The prompt was to be answered by the panel—made up of the singer and Elon Musk ex Grimes and ex-Muslim podcaster Sarah Haider on one side and one half of Red Scare Anna Khachiyan and author Louise Perry on the other—but the very fact that four accomplished women were selling out an evening hosted by a lesbian new media titan (and by the fact that, well, how could you even really argue in the affirmative?) was answered before it started. But the question wasn’t the draw.

The room was filled with throngs of Red Scare girlies and Boomer men in blazers with their bespectacled wives and bros with incel haircuts and, inexplicably, a group of extremely handsome priests, or handsome men dressed like priests, a Fleabag fever dream come to life. Amanda Fortini, Elon Gold, Aella, Dasha Nekrasova, Coleman Hughes, Alex Lee Moyer, Buck Angel, Jessica Reed Kraus. A lot of people whose only unifying descriptor could be “looks like they listen to podcasts.” “This is the Met Gala! For ideas!” one blond in a red blouse declared as she greeted her friend. It could have more likely existed in Bushwick, really. But here they were, in Hollywood, filling red velvet seats, fitted with their own Free Press branded totes (tickets cost up to $165 a piece, merch was sold by the door) as Notorious B.I.G. blasted. Comedian Tim Dillon opened the evening by poking fun at homeless people in Los Angeles, moved into how bored he was by the war in Ukraine, and noted that this is the first generation of kids who will be gifted “cocks and pussies” by their parents. The crowd purred. The room was electrified.

The marquee at The Theater at the Ace Hotel on Wednesday, Sept. 13, 2023, in Los Angeles, CA.By Francine Orr/Los Angeles Times/Getty Images.

What played out in that theater was the change of guard amongst some of the city’s most esteemed culture players—the land of the elite, Hollywood liberal shape-shifting into a post–#MeToo believe-nothing mindset. In major cities, the upper classes are coalescing around a sense of their own disenfranchisement—a flip of the 2016 script—and a number of self-identifying (or formerly self-identifying liberals) fear that the culture has come for them, with millennial mobs lurking around every corner, like little woke assassins. They feel suddenly afraid to say what they think at a dinner party, never mind on social media or at the office. For all of the hand-wringing about people on the coasts missing what was happening in the middle of the country leading up to Trump’s election, there’s the notion now that people on the coasts aren’t paying attention to this shift within the coasts—an ideological power shift that could shift culture and politics and what’s “safe” to say and who it’s “safe” to say it to. And so a room like the one Weiss pulled together was meant to be a relief. It is the 2023 version of the Wing for the exact opposite kinds of people who would have wished for the Wing. Everyone just waiting to exhale.

This is Weiss’s premise, and business has blossomed. The Free Press has 450,000 subscribers (free and paid combined) to the work of about 25 staffers in offices in both New York and Los Angeles, ostensibly. She’s recorded around 150 episodes of her own podcast, Honestly, on which she has interviewed Benjamin Netanyahu and Kim Kardashian, Eric Adams and Rick Rubin, Bill Barr and Emily Oster, and a handful of 2024 presidential hopefuls. Her network also produced the much-hyped “Witch Trials of J.K. Rowling,” published an account of a pediatric clinic treating trans kids, and, without hesitation, dove headfirst into the center of every culture war. She and her wife, Nellie Bowles, who also cut her teeth at The New York Times before each of them ultimately quit after what Weiss felt was constant bullying from people who disagreed with them, moved to Los Angeles in the summer of 2020, and have, in many ways, become toasts of the town. They are intellectuals in a place not known for thinkers. Rooms stand still when they talk. (“We have been at dinners here that never in my wildest…” Weiss joked when I brought this up. “We feel like interlopers. But somehow we get invited [because] we are girls with glasses in LA.”)

The novelty of people like Weiss and Bowles in LA—people who outwardly push boundaries as they do, whose very presence makes those who are too afraid of what they’d call Wrongthink bullying feel at ease and enlivened—has allowed them to build roots and wings for the Free Press. “I don’t think we could have built this in New York even for a day,” Bowles told me the morning of the debate. (Not that there aren’t independent outlets in New York, of course. But perhaps legacy media casts a shorter shadow in LA.) “We’d be surrounded by the negative media world day in and day out and we’d be reactive to that. In LA, politics are relevant but they’re not the core of everyone’s life. It allowed us to build something that’s positive and open and bigger, and let it be a happier experience. There’s truth to the idea that it’s a place that’s really good to build a new thing.”

That has certainly been true for a number of prominent right-wing and libertarian media companies over the last year who are, with great success, tapping into a moment in which political lines are dictating and dividing the kind of content people are willing to consume. Millions of Americans who mainstream pop culture are tribally throwing all of their money and attention behind entertainment that jives with their political views in a way that could result in two separate centers of what was once a singular hub of pop culture, the way that talk radio and Fox News did with news media years ago. Over the summer, Sound of Freedom, a crowdfunded film about child sex trafficking, beat out the latest installment of Mission: Impossible at the domestic box office. This summer when the unknown musician Christopher Anthony Lunsford released his single “Rich Men North of Richmond,”—a diatribe against politicians—it debuted at the top of the Billboard charts, besting Taylor Swift, Olivia Rodrigo, and Morgan Wallen. A number of companies, from the Daily Wire to Fox News, have made this play in Hollywood as of late, to create culturally aligned content fit exactly to fill the gaping hole that mainstream creators have left open.

Anna Khachiyan, Louise Perry, Bari Weiss, Grimes, and Sarah Haider, on stage at The Theater at the Ace Hotel on Wednesday, Sept. 13, 2023, in Los Angeles, CA.By Francine Orr/Los Angeles Times/Getty Images.

The Free Press has yet to raise a round that’s not family and friends, but it is not out of the question that they will. (Clarence Thomas bestie Harlan Crow and Palantir cofounder Joe Lonsdale have funded some of Weiss’s other projects.) Since the debate, I have heard a handful of deep-pocketed attendees around town rave about what they saw that night, saying that they’re eager to see more. In the meantime, Weiss is focused on building the subscriber base and investing income into growth.

“VC-funded media tends to be money in search of an idea, but what we are doing feels honest and real in a way that’s a relief,” Bowles said. She, for one, is not in the typical Silicon Valley more, better, faster, now, now, now grind. “All I ever wanted for us is a nice lifestyle business and a house in Montecito, maybe, but Bari wants a huge media company.”

As she stepped onstage in a skinny black suit and silver aviators to moderate the so-called clash, members of the audience cheered like it was the Eras Tour. Aside from random woots from the audience for Weiss or the four debaters (particularly Khachiyan and Grimes—basically the Taylor and Beyoncé of this crowd), the room was silent and entirely rapt, even though they were seemingly divided. When Weiss polled the audience by text before the debate, 56% of the audience said they believed the sexual revolution had failed.

Each side—Khachiyan and Perry arguing the affirmative and Grimes and Haider against—was given time for opening statements, rebuttals, questions from Weiss, followed by closing statements, though, for the most part, they all seemed to pretty much agree. Modern dating has created “digital harems” in which “high status men” have ultimate choice, Perry argued, leaving the rest of men emasculated and women free but directionless. At one point, Khachiyan, through a cloud of her own vape smoke, “low-key agreed with” a point from her counter that she was supposed to be rebutting. She’d opened with the notion that she could not “with a straight face” argue that the sexual revolution had failed, because the conceit “that we live in a society that men are in charge is funnier than anything Tim Dillon has ever said.” We still haven’t left the plantation, she added, of treating women as victims. “If revolution failed, it failed because it won.” The four debaters, all of whom have sons, seemed to agree with a set of facts: declining birth rates are a problem (“young women growing up post-sexual revolution grew up anti-natalist,” Khachiyan said, not used to caring about anyone other than themselves); porn is bad (Grimes advocated for more beautiful cinematography and better music); abortions shouldn’t be banned; mothers are undervalued (Grimes was disturbed at how women and children aren’t ushered to the front of airport security lines and made the case for free childcare in every workplace); and we should have listened to our grandmothers more. Ultimately, Grimes, who has three children with Elon Musk, concluded, none of this really mattered anyway. In a decade, we’re all going to have AI girlfriends anyway. “I hope living women still have a chance.”

By the end of the debate, another vote showed that the balance of opinion had flipped by a few percentage points. Biggie began to play again as everyone filed out and VIPs crammed in elevators to the afterparty on the hotel’s roof. “I’m going to tell her she needs to scale it,” one woman told her two friends as she stepped into a car waiting for her out front, near the hot dog cart. “This is exactly, exactly culture.”